Dear Tori Spelling – It’s Called Karma

Dear Tori Spelling:

I’ve been reading about your troubles with your husband Dean in the tabloid headlines and seeing it on “entertainment” news programs. The attitude of these articles seems to be, “poor Tori.”

As in poor Tori, who has four little children with her husband who then cheated on her. The articles say you want to keep your family together but imply this is not the first cheating crisis you have faced with your husband.

Actually Tori, what is happening now is just history repeating itself. May I remind you that you had an affair with Dean when he was married – for sixteen years no less, to a woman who was raising his child with him. They had a family. (I believe you were married too at the time of this affair.)

Since I am very old, we used to have a term for people who swiped the husbands and fathers from other women: Home-wreckers. It is a wonderful, accurate term, but then again it doesn’t put enough blame on the guy. He’s just a cheater. (Of course in my eyes, the guy is worse because he is the one sacrificing his family and his children.)

Now, apparently, home wreckers and cheaters get reality series and book deals and celebrity and lots of magazine covers! My how time has changed!

But do you want to know what hasn’t changed Tori? History repeating itself. The cheater guy who you took from his wife and family, will in most cases cheat on you too! If you look at thousands of case histories, this is usually what happens. Did you ever once examine Dean’s morals, or even your own before you had four children with him? I guess not.

Some call it Karma. They say Karma is a _itch. (The same term I would use for the women who engage in these affairs.) You see, there are consequences to poor choices and bad behavior, and not even celebrities are exempt. That hurt and pain you are experiencing was once the same pain of two separate spouses (your ex and Dean’s ex) as you two embarked on an affair. The separation and pain your children might be now suffering was once visited upon to an innocent child of your husband’s first marriage.

I used to think, “Poor Mary Jo Eustace” of Dean’s ex-wife during the time when he was cheating and then left her for you but now I think of her as the lucky one. She got rid of him, and that is a good thing. Yet I will never think of you as Poor Tori.

Looks like your late daddy Aaron was right in withholding his gazillions from you when you hooked up with a nefarious character. Mama was right too.

I wish I could have some compassion for you Tori, but maybe my compassion is all used up on the many women who are left with babies and children by cheaters like Dean. Some are even left financially destitute. That wouldn’t describe you ever, even if you do have to have tacky garage sales and sell magazine covers for money.

And who knows, maybe Dean’s going into rehab will spawn a new reality show called Reformed Dean and Forgiving Tori. As they say in your world, no publicity is bad publicity.

I am sorry you are hurting and are so burdened now with four young children and a husband who can’t keep his pants zipped in rehab. But perhaps your decisions have something to do with the predicament you now find yourself in. Just something to consider as you shop your next reality series.

Sincerely,

A Believer in Tough Love