Post Party Depression

Raise your hand if your house was full for the holiday weekend and now it is empty. My hand is raised.

As if that isn’t bad enough, we had several great events. I always find after throwing a nice party and reveling with lots of happy people, I get a letdown afterwards that I call Post Party Depression.

This happens even before the bills actually arrive. It happened after my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah, and my son’s Bar Mitzvah, and it happens after a holiday with lots of fun events.

I spent a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend attending fabulous events and throwing one myself – a get-together for my daughter, the soon-to-be Master’s degree graduate.

Both of my kids, long having left the nest were at my home much of the weekend due to the events, and it was so great having the house alive again.

Now the house is deathly quiet once again. The third, furry child is quite old and sleeps 23 out of 24 hours so not only do I not have the pitter-patter of little feet, I don’t have the pitter-patter of little paws anymore either.

In fact, the amount of post party depression I get is in direct opposite proportion to the greatness of the event. The higher the high, the lower the low.

After a few days, it will begin to go away and I will go back to being the happy-go-lucky gal I usually am.

Have you ever experienced this phenomenon? Tell me I am not alone.


  • I find the” post-mortem” helps…rehashing all the moments and keeping them verbally alive. We have a game that we usually play on vacations at the end: the “name your top five highlights and lowlights of the trip”

    This helps, ‘though my son doesn’t like the lowlight part. Sure, he’d probably find something to say, but he’d rather accentuate the positive

  • You are not alone, Arlene! Happens to me every Christmas, but the worst was after our daughter’s wedding, I was really down. A wedding is similar to leading up to Christmas, etc. – lots of preparation, money spent, family togetherness and then in one day, it’s all over.

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